I think the assessments I did this week were pretty accurate about who I am and how I communicate. My friend and coworker had very similar views to the assessment scores. I learned that I have major anxiety about public speaking but my peers think that I am a great public speaker. I feel that others can see the nerves all over me, but they both felt that I did such an awesome job. When it comes to aggression I scored moderate, which I feel is right, but my friend thought that this was wrong. She felt that I was aggressive and mean at times and did not show much emotion when it comes to others feelings. While my coworker feels that I am very nice and I do not have any aggression with others. I feel that at work I am much nicer than I am elsewhere. I do not have to have a professional hat on so I do not have as much of a filter at home. Both agreed that I was a great listener. I try my bet to offer myself to others when they need me. I do not mind giving advice when it is requested of me. I am addicted to detail and prefer if things are told to me with all the details but I will just listen without making a big deal about it when I find holes in someones communication.
This week I learned about self-denigration (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012). I do this so often when it comes to public speaking. I criticize and attack myself often. I never think I am doing things right, or that my messages are coming across the right way. I want to work on getting over this feeling. I want to be able to be confident when I do anything with public speaking. I also learned that my self-presentation is different from one social arena to another (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012). My communication at work is different than it is at home and it is clear to those who are around me. I experienced through this assignment that my friend saw me in a different light than my coworkers did.
References:
O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.
Monique,
ReplyDeleteI like you have two separate communication styles; one for professional use and another for personal use. I think that may be true for many of us. I personally would like to work on my styles becoming more aligned. I would like to focus on being a better listener and less aggressive in my personal communication style. The lessons you learned about yourself help you to become a better communicator. I really enjoyed these assessments and look forward to learning more about being a better communicator in all situations.
I enjoyed your post. I also attack myself when I am doing public speaking. I remember when I have to do a speach or words of encouragement at church I am always so hard on my self. I think we can be so hard on ourself, even when we don't need to be. By the end of this class we would be a much better communicator.
ReplyDeleteHi Kelisha
ReplyDeleteThe assessment this week allowed me the opportunity for others to assess my communication skills. I enjoyed seeing what others say about how you interact with them. I think that everyone needs a crash course in communication. Thanks for sharing post.
Hi Monique
ReplyDeleteThe assessment this week allowed me the opportunity for others to assess my communication skills. I enjoyed seeing what others say about how you interact with them. I think that everyone needs a crash course in communication. Thanks for sharing post.
Hi Monique,
ReplyDeleteAfter reading your post it seems you agree with the results you received. My coworker and I evaluated myself the same. However, the assessment this week helped us to see where we stand as a communicator. I love speaking to people and instructing lessons on activities in the classroom.